Part 1 was the basic idea that we are always predicting the future to decide what to do.
Part 2 was the competing parts of our brain, instant vs. delayed gratification
Part 3 is now looking at the idea of the reward (wanting) vs. the reward itself (happiness)
Check it out, let me know what you think.
This article in the Guardian says industrial farms are worse than we thought, their methods degrade the soil, which is not new news, but the extent to which they do is worse than they realized. Regenerative farming could be the carbon capture solution we've been looking for.
So, I'd say this is even more evidence that you can make a big impact with your consumer choices.
If you are into voting with your wallet and want to do more or if you're not into voting with your wallet and want to do more here is an article on Quartz with the headline "Conscious Consumerism is a Lie. Here's a Better Way to Save The World".
it says become an activist or use your money to support activists rather than producers. I agree activists that can change policies can make big changes, but we need both.
I've added a second installment in the Stuff You Should Know section of the site.
You and ... the Other You(s), looking at internal conflicts we all have, where they come from and what we commonly mistake them for.
Today I did 7 loans to bring me up to 80 loans in 80 days (not including weekends). Coincidentally I looked at my stats and I've now given exactly 100 loans. Out of those 100 loans over 8 years it looks like I've only lost $11 due to currency conversion, and I've never looked at the risk ratings for the loans. To put money into the website you do have to convert to US funds if you're not already in US funds so there will be some fluctuation there over time, but in general this seems very similar to just holding money in a US bank account with no interest. I highly recommend it, especially for people that want to help others but don't feel they can spare the money.
As the title says this will be my final update for the near future. My plan is to keep re-lending the money I have in there and eventually have enough to do a loan a day.
I think my bullet journal is all up to date now so I've started filling in the Stuff You Should Know section. This new section will cover everything in the Control Your Money, Control Your Life video but in more detail.
Click here to go to it
Tonight were some loans to Senegal, Liberia, Cambodia, Indonesia and Guatemala. I'll do 5 more loans next week then just loan the money out as it comes back in.
Tonight I worked on setting up a new framework for the site. I felt like I needed to separate out the basics of why we do what we do from the things we can then do in the different areas of interest, so I made a new section Stuff You Should Know, and the old section is now Stuff You Can Do.
My goal is for this to be a resource people can come and the blog is just to announce new additions to the site, not so much a blog people have to follow. Once I get a better idea of what this site is and how people use it I'll look at some more significant upgrades.
Let me what you think
A while ago I read "Getting Things: Done The Art of Stress-Free Productivity" by David Allen, it was pretty good but I just combined it with Bullet Journalling and it's even better.
Key Takeaways from Getting Things Done:
1) Have one big 'To Do' list which you can add to quickly and you have access to it at all times. I was using the list apps Clear, and OurGroceries (this can be used for more than groceries), and a Calendar app. Take as long as it takes to compile all the on to do lists you have on the go. The idea of this list is to get things out of your head so they don't take up your mental bandwidth, cause you stress, and to prevent you from forgetting about them. You can delete them off your list if you want, but that is intentional compared to just forgetting. This can take a while to get set up, but try to power through and do it all before moving on to trying to do the things on the list.
2) As new things come in, if you can do it in 2 min or less, just do it. If you can't, put it on a list. If you need to make notes on it, have a stack of file folders, give each new item it's own file folder, and it's own hanging file. He didn't really get into electronic file keeping. I've almost adopted this at work, I'm certainly using more file folders than I used to.
3) Those first two are all I remember for sure, aside from those it is helpful to plan a time when you're going to do the things on the to do list rather than hope you find the time.
So I tried to have one master to do list but it wasn't working, and I had a separate notebook for each project I was working on. It wasn't working, then I saw a video on Bullet Journalling. It's pretty basic, but I think that's why it works.
Take any book (I'm using a 3 ring binder with lined paper), and add these pages
Index - self explanatory
Future Log - divide a double spread into 6 sections for the next 6 months. List significant dates or specific tasks you'll push out to those months.
Days of the Month Page for the current month - list the days down the margin, write in significant days.
On the opposite page write out a task list (kind of the master to do list to pick from if you can fit it there).
Then a double spread for daily entries - as you go write the day of the week, write what you want to accomplish or what you did accomplish or any little note. If you don't get to something you can move it to the next day or just cancel it.
After that make Collections - these are anything that hasn't fit in so far, books to read, places to go, food to try, etc.
I'm a week in and I find it much nicer to have all the collections in one indexed journal rather than separate binders. I think I'm making way too many collections but I feel free to experiment because it is a 3-ring binder.
Here are two links I found helpful, and the video I used to get started.
I've decided to move to weekly Kiva donations. It was a good trigger to work on the blog each night, but it also takes up time each night. So tonight I did a number of loans across Ecuador (farming), Peru (farming), Congo (construction), Burkina Faso (food resale), Cambodia (water filtration), and Kenya (solar light).
This Wednesday Kiva.org is hoping to crowdlend $3 million to women around the world. If you've been thinking about it, try it out on Wednesday, it's not even a donation, you get it all back. Over my years of lending I haven't had one loan not paid back, for the average kiva user they say the default rate is around 1%, so on $25 that's $0.25.
Check it out https://www.kiva.org/lend/international-womens-day
After watching The Minimalists on Netflix it dawned on me that my site is all about living a deliberate life, about choosing what's important and then living by those values everyday, and not getting caught up with the Jones's, unless they're living a deliberate life, then by all means :)
So I redid the Home page and the About page tonight, and we'll go from there. Check out their movie. Try not to get caught up thinking you could never do that, just think about where you spend your time and money and if it aligns with your values. If not come back here and look for tips.
I keep going back to Laos for loans, tonight was $50 for water filtration systems. They are short duration so I'll be able to relend the credit out quickly (my goal is to have enough lent out that I get $25 back per day to relend), and it's for clean water, and I just can't stop thinking about how brutal the history of Laos is. Apparently during the Vietnam war the US bombers would drop bombs on Laos if they just needed to empty unused bombs because it's dangerous to land with unused bombs. So they just dropped two million tons of bombs on some people they didn't really have any problems with! Can you believe this, I can't believe this. This wasn't reported but a US guy was there and he saw it first hand and documented it in a book Voices From The Plain of Jars. I think I first heard of it in this TED talk on cluster bombs.
Today was all about farming, 3 loans to 3 similar farms in the Philippines.
I think I'm going to take a break at 80 days
This is my first post where I'm replying to a request for some help. Someone asked me if I've read "How to Win Friends and Influence People", and if it was a good read. Unfortunately I haven't so I asked what he's looking for out of the book. He said something like "to improve how I deal with people and how to get the most out of everyday interactions". So he's going to read the book and let me know what he learns, in the meantime I thought I'd write up what I've learned so far from the books I have read.
Here we go...
First, How to improve how I deal with people
The book that always comes to mind first is 'Coping with Difficult People' by Robert Bramson. The key take away
"You train people how to treat you with every interaction"
It's not that complicated, people just do what works. Over their life they've tried different approaches and they stick with what seems to work. The phrase I came up with is "Jerks are Jerks because it works"
Bramson describes a number of types of people but from what I recall he says to treat people with respect and don't put up with disrespectful behaviour towards you. If you are giving a presentation and someone makes a snarky comment, just stop and you can ask them if it was intended as a 'dig'. He gave some other more specific tips I don't recall and haven't gone back to it because luckily I don't have to deal with too many difficult people. After reading this book I noticed the same message when I was watching the TV show 'The Dog Whisperer', you train dogs how to act with every interaction. If you let them act bad they act bad, if you don't, they don't. I was told it's not nice to compare people to dogs, but I don't mean it in a bad way, I just think it's a good example of a similar principle, and you can see it applied over and over again in nice half hour segments. Every time it's a dramatic unbelievable transformation, and all they did was to not let the dog get away with bad behaviour.
I've also read:
Just Listen by Mark Goulston
How to Talk So Kids Will Learn by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
What Great Parents Do by Erica Reischer
Pitch Perfect by Bill McGowan
Pitch Anything by Oren Klaff
The Game by Neil Strauss
The are all very similar, the first three discuss the importance of listening and repeating back what you heard in your own words. First off this is great because you'll actually hear what they are saying rather than just waiting for them to pause so you can talk. Second this shows them you're paying attention, shows you understand them, makes them feel like you are on their side and build rapport. This is especially important when you don't agree with someone, you show them you can see it from their point of view, but you still don't agree with them and you can tell them why more effectively. By doing this you're more likely to find common ground and come to a compromise quicker. It works with everyone from kids to adults, everyone wants to feel like they are being heard.
The second three are when you are trying to get someone's attention, overcome the barriers they put up to the unknown and convince them of something. The big takeaway is to recognize their defenses, and do things that don't set off any alarms. To get close to someone very important one author recommended trying to get close to one of their admins or gatekeepers as he called them. Have that person become your advocate. This also works by asking friends of friends for help, these people are called your 'weak ties'. Friends of friends are usually comfortable enough to help you get in touch with someone, and by going in that way you have a significant edge over people going in cold. From 'The Game' they were talking about social interactions, how to strike up a conversation with people you don't know. This was very similar, go over with a very specific question make it obvious you're not coming over for an indefinite amount of time. Most people are more than willing to answer a question. Another technique is to not try to get their attention but to try to get everyone's attention, then if you do give that person your attention they'll kind of feel like they've won rather than feeling unsure and defensive. This happens in business as well, people are people.
Many interactions can be difficult or frustrating. You may feel they are not treating you well. A good antidote for this is to realize it's probably not you they are unhappy with, they could be tired, hungry, mad about something else. If someone seems upset try to think 'what else could this mean?' or 'what could be the cause of this?' Or you could be the one that is mad at them. In these situations I like to remind myself that everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they've got. They aren't making bad decisions on purpose, so I try to figure out why they might have done what they did, and maybe even confirm I've got the story right in the first place. Often I don't have the whole story and what they did makes sense. Other times they didn't have the full story so what they did also makes sense.
In general try not to make assumptions, but if you find yourself compelled to, then try making wildly positive assumptions instead of wildly negative ones, they're just as likely to be true, and they'll have you entering a discussion from a much more positive perspective.
Now, How to make the most of an everyday scenario
How to Get Anyone to Do Anything by R. Philip Hanes
The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris
Philip Hanes from what I recall is one of the Hanes associated with the clothing line. A very successful businessman, and he shares some of his secrets in this book. His tips range from buttering people up to tricking people in specific postures which are more receptive to requests. I don't think he calls it buttering people up, but when he meets people he tries to get as much info about them as he can and he makes a file on them, birthday, names of family members, where they went to school, what they do, interests and hobbies etc. Then he tries to be a good friend, if he sees something that might interest one of his friends, he lets them know about it. He helps people network, if he wants to ask a favour he does something nice for one of his friends, something inline with their hobbies or interests, maybe helps them do something on their bucket list. I seem to recall a very detailed set of interview questions he uses, not for his friends but for potential employees. It was interesting and I might look it up if I need to hire someone, but the cleverest thing he mentioned was how to get someone in a receptive state of mind. We all know body language is real, and we all know people with crossed arms are being closed off, so he tries to do things to get people to uncross their arms. When he is pitching new ideas he makes sure he has it on a poster that the person needs to unfold and hold up with their arms wide open. I find this so smart, so easy. I don't know how effective it is but I know it's worth the cost of a big piece of paper to try it out.
These days electronic communication is a huge part of our lives. If possible I recommend calling people rather than emailing, but I know you're going to have to email people once in awhile, the best advice I've read on emails was in 'The 4 Hour Work Week'. The tips are very obvious once you hear them, but not everyone thinks about it. The basics people know, have a clear subject, and keep it as short as possible. The mistake people often make is to ask one question and wait for the reply before telling the person what to do. Tim suggests asking the question or making the request e.g. "Do you have X in stock?" and also say what you want them to do e.g. "If so I'd like to order 10..." AND even more importantly what you want if they don't e.g. "If not please put me next on the waiting list".
You can save a number of back and forth emails with this technique. Also try to format your email so the questions are obvious and up front rather than in the middle of a large paragraph. Give them a heads up in the intro,
I have two questions:
Please reply by ...
It's almost like you're writing a computer program with IF statements. When I'm writing emails and they are getting long I think back to my favourite fortune cookie quote "In every enterprise, consider the outcome". When I first read it I was thinking it had something to do with Star Trek because I've never heard anyone else use the term enterprise, and then I took a minute to think about what it meant. In everything you do know why you are doing it, so simple, so often overlooked. I find by doing this it'll help you figure out if it's worth doing and it'll help you better predict if the actions you're taking are going to get the results you want. When I notice an email getting long I think "what do I want to get across here", or "what do I want this person to do?" and then I try to see what information is totally useless towards that goal. I can usually take out more than half of what I wrote.
And now, How to get the most out of people
If you're in a leadership role keep in mind that people will often rise to a challenge, and often take on the role you give them. I recall a TED talk about student government and the adult running it said they kids took it very seriously as long as he did, and as long as the roles were treated with respect. More so than age the role the kids had determined their level of behaviour, they rose to the challenge as they say.
And in a leadership role or not, let people help you. Ask for help, many successful people like to be asked their opinions or advice, and are willing to help out here and there. It's a delicate balance between asking too much and not asking enough, but if you find people offering assistance take them up on it, don't hold back in order to prove you can do it on your own, no one can do everything on their own.
Beyond these tips, I really recommend my primer videoControl Your Money, Control Your Life. It covers why we do what we do not only as it relates to money, but all aspects of your life. Knowing the behind the scenes of why humans do what they do is not only helpful in your own goal setting, but also when dealing with other people. It can help you understand why they might have done something your don't agree with so you can find some common ground, or it can help you find a way to get through to someone one you are trying to collaborate with.
In all situations I find it helpful to be sincere, smile, try to see things from the other person's point of view, and to focus more on what you agree rather than what you don't agree on. And try to remember their name so you can use it, people seem to love it when other people remember their name. You might be saying you can't but trust me, you can. The next time you meet someone just make sure to try, try really hard. You know, ask them, listen, repeat it back to them, pause to look at their face, repeat it back to them when you part ways. Then tell me if it worked or not, if not I'll do a post on memory tricks.
Don't let the fear of rejection hold you back, acknowledge your requests as a little strange and that can soften the experience, even get people on your side. This is easier said than done, so here is a video to inspire you to try.
If I'm ever at a self serve drink station I tend to skip the straw and lid if I don't need it. It's a small thing but why not. I saw an article listing 5 easy plastic things we can probably all give up, and some that will take more effort.
1. Plastic cutlery (there are compact travel options)
2. Plastic straws (you can buy stainless steel ones apparently)
3. Plastic shopping bags
4. Switch to a bamboo toothbrush (check amazon)
5. Bottled water
6. Buy toilet paper wrapped in paper instead of plastic (might be hard to find)
7. Take-out containers
8. Disposable plastic cups and paper cups lined with plastic (most coffee cups)
Here's a link to the article with some compelling reasons and a video with Jeff Bridges!
I'm combining my contributions these days, I'm guessing it's cheaper to process fewer transactions so I'm thinking this is better for Kiva's bottom line, and it saves me some time, so I'm not going to look into it, I'm just going to go with it. Today was $75 for a water filter.
Rather than someone on Kiva I thought I'd help out some other people helping out some other people. If you watched the Saturday Night Live hosted by Kristen Wiig, and you watched it all the way to the end you might have noticed her say something about standing with those on Standing Rock. I saw it and didn't know what she was talking about so I looked it up. Turns out there are peaceful protesters trying to stop some corporations from taking over their land, and they need help. Since the show I saw a video about a group of Vets going to stand with those on Standing Rock.
I didn't help out with their first GoFundMe but they have a second one that doesn't have the momentum of the first so I thought I'd help out.
Here's a link https://www.gofundme.com/VetStand4-StandingRock
Here's a fitting poem I came across recently
First They Came - Pastor Martin Niemoller
First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me
I contributed to a bigger loan than usual, it was almost $4000 to buy a cow. The avg. annual income in this area is only $2300. Seems crazy. Best of luck to them
Tonight I got to this a bit late so I'll do two days in one. Helping out a couple businesses in Bali and Bolivia.
A loan to buy a computerized sewing machine. Seems like a popular request.
I spent most of the night on an email reaching out to the founders of Method soap to see if they want to collaborate on this site since it seems similar to the Ethos of their brand, and almost forgot to make a Kiva loan. Tonight I lent $25 to Thuy in Vietnam for some school supplies.
I'll keep you posted on the Method guys, in the meantime I recommend you check out their book, or at least buy their products.
Just got back from vacation so I thought I'd give a loan in the entertainment category. Today I lent a guy $25 to improve his video game parlor. He's looking to buy some plastic chairs and a Nintendo Wii. I'd send him mine but based on my experience with sending things to Central America I don't know if it would ever get to him. Travelling really gives you an appreciation for what we have in North America. When my friends lived in Panama they said don't send them any care packages because the mail service is unreliable. When some friends and I sent computers down to Guatemala to set up a computer lab in a school, we thought they were lost for good, but luckily we knew some people who knew some people and were able to get the computers out of customs on the last day were were there.
People seem more interested in politics these days and lifehacker has a nice post on how to get your voice heard between elections (U.S. advice).
Going to take a week off after this and then thinking I might go to weekly Kiva updates.
Tonight was helping a group get access to clean drinking water.