OK here it is, my attempt at creating a user manual for your brain so you can make the most of this site. Many people are well intentioned but fail to follow through. This shows you why that is and how you can overcome it if you want. I focused on the topic of money but the principles are the same for any goal.
This is meant to be an open discussion, a goal of this site is to come up with a new mental model for why we do what we do. One that we can all use day to day to make better decisions and to get along better with each other. If you agree or disagree with any aspects let me know and let's see what we can come up with
Let me know what you think of this, it's a pretty rough cut, no editing done. I haven't even listened to it myself, I feel like if I do I will never stop tweaking it. So let me know, if the content is good or bad, if the audio is ok or not, and any way I can improve it.
1 - I highly recommend getting a copy of Tony Robbin's Get The Edge or the booklet or a transcript. His other books or programs like Unleash The Power Within may cover the same material but I haven't listened to them so I don't know for sure. From his site they are pretty expensive but on amazon they are very reasonable. I can lend you my copy if you want. He does a great job describing the way we make up rules based on experiences, and how to reset those rules. His style may not be for everyone, he's really intense but I recommend you just try to stick it out and try to get used to it. He's got a lot of great insight in behaviour.
2 - The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal. This is an amazing resource for understanding your auto pilot (she calls it your 'monitor' I think). If you skip Tony Robbins don't skip this one. You can even get the audiobook forfree using my link to audible.
Others Books (don't bother with these until you've read/listened to the first two)
3. Happy Money - This outlines ways to make the most of your money.
4. Your Brain at Work - How your brain has limited bandwidth and you need to manage it as a resource. He suggests thinking of it as a stage, and thoughts as actors on the stage. You really need to stage manage, both by limiting what is in front of you and practicing mindfulness/meditation to have better control over thought selection (ignore distractions)
5. Happiness Hypothesis - a great book that outlines the tension between pilot and auto-pilot, he describes us as an elephant and a rider. I love this analogy but didn't have time to explain it in the video above.
6. Time Wars - This was the first book I read that pointed out that the most important thing in our lives is the predictions of the future we think of or that other people tell us. They dictate everything. When I read it at first I thought he was crazy, now it seems so obvious, and it seems like something everyone needs to be made aware of.
And of course Links to the previous posts
Links to Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4
I just realized I forgot to mention mental shortcuts that the auto-pilot uses. These are called cognitive biases. Check out this short list and check out this long list.
And I forgot to mention the concept of mental junk food. Just like you watch what you eat you need to watch what you spend your time thinking about. So many companies are competing for your attention you need to watch out for this more than ever. An interesting book on the topic is Distracted, another one available on Audible.com